Generate positivity: Cut voluntary exposure to negativity on social media (and everywhere else).

Social media. Ahh. What a concept.

The current age of technology allows us to be selective. We can cherrypick content to our liking.  Subjectivity is the new objectivity.

The issue with Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, etc… is that they are all designed to make you feel bad until you use them again. It’s a modern control mechanism to encourage conformity.

Let’s be honest: The majority of the time we’re on these sites, we’re using them in an automated fashion that stems from the subconscious desire to…

a) boost and or maintain our egos

b) out of habitual addiction to see what’s going on

c) confirm our existing beliefs

Now, let’s be clear here: I don’t discourage social media. What I do encourage however, is the following:

  1. Stop following ALL negative people and pages. You are in control here, and should maximize  your mental capital by avoiding the melodrama and negativity. These people are toxic. They will only bring you down. On my Facebook, for instance, I tailored my feed so that the only people I see are family and close friends. The other people?–I just don’t care.
  2. Follow pages that are relevant to your passions. If you’re a musician, follow the local venue’s page to get a scoop on live events around you. If you’re a cook, look at the cooking magazines. If you’re into nature or photography, it’s fantastic to get a glimpse of the world around us though breathtaking pictures. Cultivate a feed that is exciting and relevant to you.
  3. Only post and share what is an expression of your happiness. It’s not to get likes, status, approval–it’s not to get anything. You are living your life and simply sharing that love. The internet is just a medium for sharing.

Once you’ve cleansed your feed, things will feel a bit different. A bit lighter. A bit happier. More inspiring. You might even be asking yourself, “Where did all of the bullshit go?!”.  

And that is perfectly normal, because we drastically underestimate the impact social conditioning has on our mental health.

It all stems from awareness. Say it with me: Awareness. Awareness. Awareness.

When we can step off the conveyor belt, assess our feelings, and take conscious control of ourselves, positive changes will blossom in our lives. We can reshape our thought patterns through engaging in healthier information.

Even the little things make a huge difference.

10 Timeless and Best Feelings

Without getting into drug territory (that would require a separate and quite lengthy article), I have compiled a list of feelings I would consider among the most enjoyable. They are in no particular order.

  1. Intimacy with someone you care about. I think this one is the most obvious but there are few things that top being with someone special and exchanging each others energies. Whether it’s light flirting or something intensely sexual–it’s easy to forget the rest of the world around you.
  2.  Connecting with someone on a deep level you just met. In a world full of people who just don’t understand what you’re going through, it’s an incredibly comforting feeling to be around someone who shares values and experiences that you do.  Especially when it’s an instant connection. You’re both ready to take on anything.
  3.  Finishing a hard project and basking in its glory. Whatever it is–it’s that feeling of seeing hard work pay off. You didn’t take shortcuts, and you most certainly didn’t bullshit anything. You took it step by step, and with finesse and patience–the end goal came to fruition. It could have taken weeks, months, years–but it was finished. And you couldn’t be happier it was done even though it may have been tedious and frustrating.
  4. Listening to music. You just discovered the perfect album. A new artist, a new track. Music has a way of changing our reality. It takes us to a different landscape of emotions and colors. It can change the way we see the world around us. It can comfort us. We can cry to it. It can make us want to break shit and rob a bank. Regardless–it channels our emotions and allows us to zone in on them.  Don’t forget to listen to it LOUD (more energy is created and sometimes you can’t feel what the artist intended until your speakers are literally distorting). Live music is also fantastic to be a part of.
  5. Travel and discovering everything new and beautiful. Stepping off an airplane, going on a road trip, walking in a forest. You’ll never know what you’ll find. The sounds, the sights, the colors. You’re in new territory and adventure awaits. That feeling of the fresh air, the excitement of being somewhere new. Life doesn’t have to always be hard, so give yourself a damn vacation and go somewhere exciting. It nurtures the soul. As Ferris Bueller says, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”
  6.  Teamwork and problem solving. Regardless if you love or hate your colleagues–a problem has birthed. If it isn’t addressed timely, things could get ugly. Setting aside our differences and working to overcome a conflict as a team is a very communal feeling. It strengthens relationships and gives us the confidence to realize we can overcome even the worst of scenarios. When everybody can ditch their egos, swallow their pride and get the job done, progress manifests.
  7. Epiphany. Having a sudden realization of a perspective you never considered, an idea you never thought of. Everything starts to align and resonate with you. Your inner genius is unleashed. Cherish this feeling and dance with it as it develops. Literally–your ENTIRE life can change simply because you thought of something in a certain way. It’s unbelievable how powerful our minds are and how ideas can inspire immense change in ourselves and the world around us.
  8. Nostalgia. Looking through old photographs and remembering the good times. It makes us wonder how much we’ve changed and how life seemed so simple back then. Especially when we were children without a clue how anything worked except playing and laughing. “Was that really me?!” is a question that often pops up. Nostalgia is such a unique feeling of its’ own.
  9. Feeling cozy during a storm. I personally love storms, wind, rain. It’s so fascinating to me and being inside when the sky is going crazy is a very comforting feeling. And even if I’m outside getting soaked, I can’t help but laugh and feel happy to be alive. Storms are the sky putting on a sort of symphony, and avant garde composition that is so subtle and so jarring at the same time. They seem to be very entertaining and remind us that the world is a lot more vast of a place and we are simply a tiny part of everything going on. Storms are so timeless and tap into our ancient roots to find shelter and survive.
  10. Laughing. “Does anybody remember laughter?” chants Robert Plant of Led Zeppelin in the famous live recording of Stairway to Heaven in 1973. Laughter is among the best of the best feelings. I believe laughing is a medicine to cure many of our problems. People take themselves way too seriously and forget the simple things in life. Being around people who are smiling and sincerely happy to be alive is such a wonderful feeling. Life doesn’t always make sense, so laugh and love each other!
  11. (Bonus) Making Others Happy. Seeing another soul happy is contagious. It’s always a great feeling to know something I did made a difference in someone’s lives for the better. Whether it took a lot of effort or simply was the result of my mere existence, I love to see others enjoying life to the fullest.

So, that wraps up today’s article! Hope you all enjoyed what you read and have a wonderful day. You’ll notice a theme in all of these feelings. They all involve new experiences from the ordinary and mundane. If you’ve ever wondered why kids are so smiley and happy and can endlessly laugh — it’s because the world is a very novel place to them that they are still discovering everything. Which is why I challenge all of you to continue to explore, continue to question, continue to search for your truest passions and follow the path that you feel happy engaging in. Embrace the unknown and plunge into everything. We all still have that inner kid inside us all!

Warm Regards,

Seth @ BeHereNow

“Know Thyself”: Thoughts & Feelings Keep Us Alive, So Invest In Them

I discuss awareness a lot, but it’s incredibly important to know what you are feeling and why you feel a certain way. I used suppress my more negative feelings, but that never solved anything. In fact, it caused me to act in a way to compensate for feeling shitty about something I didn’t give myself time to learn from, take accountability for, and grow as a human being. That was only running from who I really was, and not addressing the root issues I was dealing with. Credibility is necessary for progress, so we need to examine ourselves openly and honestly before we can progress positively.

Which is why, if you feel like crying, let it happen. If you feel like jumping with joy, do it. We need to love ourselves. We often overlook taking care of ourselves due to distractions. Our feelings are a sort of compass that gives us valuable feedback on ourselves and the day-to-day environment we engage in. They might be telling us something isn’t working and we need to make positive changes in the direction we want to be in. The environment always reciprocates, and we should pay close attention to all processes going on. We should really invest in looking at why we might be feeling a particular way, from multiple angles and perspectives. An empathetic approach to everything.

The richer of a relationship we have with our thoughts, feelings, and behavior–the more aligned and grounded we can become.

Alan Watts (An English interpreter of Eastern philosophy) wrote a book called “The Taboo Against Knowing Who You Are”. I highly recommend checking out some of his work. There are many recordings of his speeches on the internet.

We Are Meant to Roam Wild: Break the Chains of the Modern Paradigm

Imagine if you were given two scoops of the same food, along with a big bowl of water, every day, for the rest of your life. And to make matters more frustrating, you couldn’t leave the house until someone let you–you were 100% dependent on your owners to do anything other than sleep all day…and watch them eat whatever they want and do as they please.

Wouldn’t you feel controlled? Wouldn’t you instinctively rebel to try to reclaim your freedom?

We can apply this analogy to our lives as well. We are all unique individuals and should go about our lives pursuing our passions and utilizing our talents to the highest degree. We should do this in the purest form of joy and happiness to be alive. Sometimes we get so caught up in the system; we feel compelled to follow orders and do as we are told. We believe that is our only way to be successful, otherwise we’re hopeless. Our potential is limited because someone told us to follow their model, not yours. Someone else’s (more powerful) will is controlling ours.

Imagine again you are that dog with shitty caregivers that walk over you. All you want to do is run off into the wild and be free. However, you no longer have a guarantee of anything. Nothing is predictable or entirely safe, but it’s not mundane anymore. You’re doing exactly what you always wanted to do and you’re paving your own path to greatness.

Are you willing to give up on everything that doesn’t 100% matter to you or enrich your life, ditch those surface level “friends”, and take a leap of faith   – for the sake of doing what you love? This is the hardest step for everyone. It IS risky and people don’t like uncertainty. We want guarantees, tips and tactics. Because we might fail. In fact, we will. But we might succeed. We can learn an incredible amount of lessons along the way and become stronger and wiser individuals every day. All while doing what we wholly love and care about.

I hope you will take the plunge, break out of the mold, and blossom into the unique person you have always meant to be. The ice is thin, but the other side of the river is calling you to your greatness.

Warm regards,

Seth

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For the love of Jimi Hendrix

He practically changed everything in a time that needed him the most.

There is something so timeless about Hendrix’s playing. I remember how immensely happy I was when I first bought Are You Experienced and Electric Ladyland at the record store. It was a warm and breezy summer day in July with blue skies and good vibes.

Such beautiful albums with an electic landscape of sonic textures.

Electric Ladyland really, really does take you to another dimension. From start to finish, it’s a luscious masterpiece. It’s even more amazing how Hendrix produced the entire album himself. It is so rich and layered. It feels like you’re actually there, in 1968, with Jimi standing right in front of you with pure energy flowing right out of his flipped-upside-down Fender Stratocaster and through the speakers of a massive Marshall stack. And of course, Mitch Mitchell had incredible finesse on the drums. He was truly a talented percussionist.

I can’t help but feel the album is even more relevant nowadays, where music is becoming more of a computerized commodity than something that touches and really affects the listener for the better. Hendrix makes listeners feel something real. It’s so apparent that the guitar was an extension of himself, and that really shows in his music. He was able to connect & unify everyone in a time of dissaray and rebellion. And he still does just as much to this very day.

That is art.

Internal Conflicts & the Importance of Being Aware of Everything

Sometimes I don’t “feel” social situations at all and would rather avoid them altogether. Whether you just don’t like the vibe of wherever you are, or you’ve totally burned the bridge with someone, there are plenty of valid reasons to mind your own business and ride solo.

I always favored the notion that people should challenge their comfort zones. You will never know what you are capable of until you try it. And often, we regret things we didn’t try; events we brushed off. And when we see how much fun it was to other people and feel shitty….THAT is the feeling of regret.But those events we made a big fuss about often turn out to be fantastic. And even if they aren’t, we can derive valuable lessons from the experience. We like learning, and the more information you gain from experience, the more you learn about yourself. And that becomes incredibly important for becoming a better & wiser person.

If you genuinely aren’t interested in doing something, you’re better off not doing it. But if you are interested in it, but feel held back by some personal factor – I’ve found it’s massively important to reflect on why exactly you are feeling that way and really asses the root cause. It could be, you have confidence issues & feel judged, perhaps a traumatic or disappointing series of related events rubbed you the wrong way, or something in the environment reminds you of the past. Whatever the case may be, it’s important to be mindful and notice your own thoughts & emotions and “catch” yourself in that state. I highly recommend getting into Mindfulness meditation – it can really help you be at ease with yourself and the environment.

Many psychologists in cognitive & behavioral therapies recommend exposing patients to their greatest fears — in attempt to help them “get over” them entirely and be more emotionally stable. Mindfulness is very much a form of exposure to your internal fears — because it involves looking at your feelings from a 3rd person sort of view (and not engaging in them, simply being aware that they exist in that moment and being okay with that). Once again, highly recommend. You can practice being mindful anywhere. When I’m outside, I often allow myself a moment to take everything in — observe the trees, the sky, myself, people around me.

As humans, we often are so automated that we forget we are in a particular state and are feeling a certain way. When you are aware of how you are feeling, you have more control of yourself, you are significantly more at ease with everything going on. One is more buoyant to the current of life.  The less need we can attach to external circumstances & outcomes — the more independent & grounded we can become.

Stay frosty.

 

The Motivation Paradox: “I want to do something I don’t want to do!”

Exposing the unnecessary insanity we put ourselves through.

We grow up where all of our belief patterns are shaped by our superiors. Our thoughts on right and wrong, discipline, etc, are GIVEN to us. They are not our own. Especially in western cultures, we constantly feel we are inherently more special from the moment we are born. Which can be a very frightening realization, because now you feel you need to do something magnificent before someone else does. And that goes on and on until you die.

What I see as a major problem to many people nowadays is that constant feeling of “not being enough” and hence, having a need to jump through so many loopholes just to feel adequate. People take themselves mega seriously, and spend years pretending to be someone they’re not. They play the game of life in such a tryhard fashion thinking their egos are the meaning of life. If you’re lucky, you’ll realize you’ve been fooling yourself and give up on that nonsense. But for some,  they are totally convinced they need to keep trying to act a certain way & think a certain way to get what they want.

This kind of mentality isn’t realistic. In fact, it’s delusional thinking. It stems from a sense of inadequacy & inferiority with the present moment. It’s not accepting yourself for who you are. It’s not loving yourself and the environment.

If you really, TRULY wanted to do something, wouldn’t you just do it? Wouldn’t you not need “motivation” to boost you?

You see, this is exactly the problem; it’s not intrinsic. It’s placing a need for happiness on external circumstances. And this kind of thinking can plague people for years. People can become neurotic and develop very unhealthy mentalities because they feel pressured to accomplish greater than what they already are.

The only person who will ultimately make that decision is you. Needing external motivation isn’t going to make you do anything. It’s “feel good” propaganda that gives us a reason to rationalize “we could do it–IF we wanted to”. All of these modern motivational tips and tactics are another way to hide. A better question to ask yourself is, “What is it for?”.

Change is important, however. Experiencing life in as many ways as possible is a necessary tool for growth. Sometimes we genuinely don’t know what we want until we have experienced something firsthand. And there is a lot of power in knowing what we don’t want.

As Alan Watts famously said, “The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.”

So with that being said, do things you are genuinely passionate about and love. There will always be obstacles that we will run into. Skills make us happy, and we need to have discipline to develop skills, as Alan Watts discusses. But be real with yourself, because it’s very possible the majority of things you feel obliged to do are things you’d be much happier not doing!