Make Your Life Like A Movie: Pay Attention, Stop Questioning, and Take Action!

Do you kind of wish your life was more exiting, romantic, and cinematic? If you pay attention to the right things, it can be!

Your attention is the most powerful thing you have in life. It’s not how strong you are, how good you are at something. It’s what you pay attention to that determines where you will be in 5, 10, 20 years from now. That’s why successful people are successful and miserable people are miserable!

If you’re focusing on negative attributes, you will life a life of mostly negative attributes. This seems extremely over simplistic and basic, but it’s absolutely true. It’s the whole concept of the Law of Attraction, which says like attracts like. You attract what you embody, what you are…not what you think or want. Audit yourself: On a day to day basis, what kind of thoughts go through your mind? Are they filled with gratitude and joy, or victim mentality, attachments, and suffering?

The question then is, how do we focus on desirable qualities so that we live a good life?

The truth is, you have to come to a point in your life where you stop questioning “how” you’re going to do things. You essentially must let go of any kind of logical interpretation, or thinking, about your methodology moving forward. You have to absolutely stop nitpicking your own temperament, and simply take action. The “how”, the “planning” and “strategizing” will only weaken your power in this process because you’re overly concerned with the outcome you are attached to.

To be more concrete, what I mean by taking action is a literal embodying of what you desire in life and propelling yourself into the world as that thing you embody,. Yes, I’m asking you to literally BE the qualities you want in life. This doesn’t mean “acting” them. This means ASSUMING YOU ARE “THEM”.

Ask yourself this simple question: What can I do to make this month a movie? Start living like you’re directing your own film. Throw in contrast, awkwardness, laughs, romance, joy, hustle, spirituality. Literally say to yourself “I’m tired of the mundane, I’m going to push myself to the limits for the sake of experiencing life to the fullest, regardless of what happens–I will learn and grow in the process”.

This does not mean be oblivious to the world around you or resort to drug abuse and reckless behavior. Awareness is super critical to your success, and if you’re bumbling around and blindly thinking you know it all, you will 100% fail in your endeavors. You have to be mindul of what’s going on — this means looking at everything happening around you, and spotting the trend before others do. You have to pay attention for all of this to work. It’s like that quote from Rounders — if you can’t spot the sucker in the room, it’s you.

All I’m saying is the simple truth that if you pay attention to what’s going on around you (which you can cultivate through daily meditation & mindfulness practice…I will make a blog post on this soon), and then plunge in with a strong desire to live a “cinematic” life — you will see insane, beautiful changes happen. Just make sure you’re doing all of this to be compassionate and give value to the world. If you’re doing it for personal gain, you might get what you want in the short term but the karmic recoil is very, very strong, and you’ll end up in a worse place than you started later down the road.

The summary is: Let go of attachment. Jump in. Pay attention. Stop questioning. Execute.

Life is too short to settle for the mundane. If you’re not happy with where you are, guess what? You can change it! I’m telling you it’s 100% possible as we speak. All you must do is embrace everything that happens in this process and be aware of what’s going, both internally and externally. That’s it!

 

 

“Confidence” is related to your job more than you think…

If you aren’t excellent at your job, you will not be very confident in most areas of life.

This is easily explained by the psychological concept of a dominance hierarchy.

Being at the top of a dominance hierarchy is a fancy way of saying “having a respected status or ranking” in a competitive social & work environment.

If you are low in a dominance hierarchy, your serotonin and dopamine levels will be low. You will almost always not be sufficiently happy. 

Why? Because you and everybody your work with knows you aren’t that valuable. Your services and skills simply don’t hold their weight to harder working, more intelligent workers. It’s not easy to say that, but it’s usually true.

If this happens, you will be neurotic. You will have that nasty voice in the back of your head that feels out of place and undervalued. This can plague you for years. Especially if you’re in sales or highly competitive environments and you’re not cut for that cloth…

The truth is…

People who contribute value to an organization receive value in return. 

The solution is to pick a job, career, or vocation where you’d be a big fish in a small pond. Even if that means downsizing, or working in a less competitive environment if you’d be better at your job.

What skills and natural aptitudes do you have that would put you at a competitive advantage?

Note: I’m suggesting to be self-aware before making any kind of career decision. If you aren’t smart enough for a job, you will have a miserable time pursing it as a career. This means social intelligence, too. Also, I’m not arguing “status = confidence” in a superficial manner. Rather, the purpose of this article is to show how confidence is related to being good at what you do…and “status” or “respect” results as a byproduct.

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Being open-minded is a double-edged sword

Being open-minded is a gift. You have a thirst for knowledge and experience. You’re never satisfied with settling on the ideologies society gives you. Constantly searching, you flow like water–assuming no definite shape or form.

Highly creative people are very open. Crafting art, writing a brilliant story, or dazzling a crowd with a speech–these people are true Artists.

Unfortunately, open-minded individuals lack a concrete identity. They’re sort of Pan like–adopting every idea in a wild, unrestrained manner.

Think about it–if you’re always open to some other possibility, how can people make sense of you? You’re constantly changing and evolving uncontrollably.

This can make it difficult to hold a traditional job, relationship, or identity. It can even make it hard to be in touch with yourself.

All hope is not lost, however. If you struggle with a fluid identity by being super open…

Here’s the antidote:

Create and share ART.

Humans live to experience art. This gives you one form you can rely on. People might not fully grasp everything about you, but they can appreciate what you produce–your art.

Art isn’t just tangible things. YOU are Art. 

The world needs YOU to share YOU for the sake of the globe to continue spinning. 

Peace!

-Seth

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“Take Your Pills” Commentary. What’s Adderall REALLY like?

I just finished watching the new Netflix documentary “Take Your Pills” which discusses the rise of Adderall and amphetamines and ADHD. What’s so great about these little blue monsters?

Adderall is a powerful drug. Only one methyl group from Methamphetamine, it can cause a myriad of health problems and psychological issues. As someone who has struggled with attention problems, I will discuss my experience with Adderall in hopes that it takes away any glorification of Adderall this documentary claimed.

Adderall floods your brain with dopamine and norepinephrine. Basically, it lights up the “feel good” neurotransmitters that allow someone to focus on tasks for longer periods of time.

People with ADD and ADHD have fragmented attention spans. They are easily swayed by environmental distractions, absorbing too much stimuli. Their brain is overloaded with too much at once, resulting in the inability to get anything significant done–because their attention centers are “burned out”.

Basically, it’s a symptom of dysfunctional or low dopamine levels. The more a person switches from one source of novelty to another, the weaker attention span they have. If you have a weak attention span and can’t get much done because of it, you almost certainly have low dopamine levels.

This is a significant and rising problem: With low dopamine, you feel unfulfilled. You aren’t confident to stick with things. You give in to distraction, and give up too easily. You become susceptible to making poor decisions, seeking drugs, and becoming depressed. 

The real solution to raising dopamine is to focus on tasks for longer periods of time and eliminate distractions. A good example would be reading a book, running, or walking in a forest. These activities restore healthy neurotransmitter levels.

But why bother when you have pills, right!? That’s the mentality society has come to now. We want instant access to everything, and Adderall is no exception. Spending time diligently, and disciplining yourself is too much work. Eating wholesome foods is a hassle. Good parenting is too much work. Pills are more efficient apparently.

Negative Effects

I don’t take Adderall much anymore because I couldn’t relax on it. Here are some of the side effects I experienced:

  • Emotional blunting (when taken every day): I felt robotic, and unable to feel naturally happy.
  • Anger: People would irritate me for no reason. People were like obstacles I wanted to get out of my way. (When I’d go grocery shopping on Adderall, every person in the aisle seemed like roadblocks).
  • Stress: Inability to relax until 2am. Nonstop “let’s solve problems” thoughts. Racing mind and heart rate.
  • Lower dopamine levels when not on it

Positive Effects

  • Significantly increased conscientiousness: I followed through on every commitment I had. I cleaned my house. I connected with coworkers and friends more openly. I finished projects I kept delaying.
  • I felt more motivated to do mundane things, like dishes and cleaning.
  • Around 50-80% decrease in social anxiety.
  • Increased peripheral awareness.

Anyhow, I’ll be honest: Adderall really helped me in the short term rut of my life. As an adult with attention problems, I finally felt like I could accomplish more. However, the side effects are just too intense for me to bother taking it often. It might seem alluring, but trust me, it’s not.

I recommend having 2 or 3 strong cups of coffee before ever considering Adderall. I wouldn’t wish it upon my worst enemy. Seeing that 11% of kids are being diagnosed with ADD and ADHD (and most likely taking amphetamines) is really, really scary.

Stay sober guys.

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Being “Spiritual” is No Substitute for Psychiatric Evaluation…

I feel that I have to write this article to clear the air. Since most of my audience seems to be spiritually-inclined people, I feel obligated to present a counter argument to what I normally write about. 

A lot of people resort to spirituality in the midst of a life crisis. It helps them appreciate life in more subtle, holistic ways. Fantastic.

Many people learn to cope with alternative lifestyles, meditation, and healthy eating. Awesome.

Others have latent mental illnesses and resist psychiatric evaluation, thinking being spiritual is enough. Not good.

Let’s be real here: Mental illnesses are legitimate problems. Telling someone with mental health issues to “go meditate for a bit, smoke a blunt, and eat some kale” is dangerous. Instead of seeking professional help, they believe they can do it on their own. This is delusion, and it’s often difficult to fix once habituated.

If you or anyone you know is struggling with mental health issues, do not resist seeking professional help. I’m not saying to go around searching for a diagnosis, but just be aware of the professional support that is out there and can drastically improve the quality of your life.

Thanks for taking the time to read this article.

Peace -Seth

Do We Have Free Will? The Answer is Complicated…

Yes and no.

We have free will in the day-to-day activities we engage in. I can pick the color of shirt I want to wear, which restaurant I want to dine at, and whether I want to date Susie, Sally, Sarah, or Sylvia. All at my own autonomous discretion.

However, do we always know what we want? And can we really change whatever we want about our lives?

The problem people run into is when we can’t make decisions for ourselves due to some kind of limiting obstacle. The obstacle could be in the external world, but more likely it’s within our own psyche. These are often called success barriers

Human beings are addicted to emotions. We essentially become slaves to our identities, constantly reinforcing beliefs about ourselves unconsciously. This “echo-chamber” of the mind can be extremely helpful, or extremely damaging, depending on what’s being reinforced.

For instance, if you have low self-esteem, it feels almost impossible to accomplish goals a person with high-self esteem would. Why? It’s because this person’s ego is addicted to believing a story about themselves that says “I’m not good enough to earn this because I’m [insert rationalization]…”

This neurotic, obsessive habit, when left unchecked, can plague someone’s life for years. Do the still have the free will to change it? Yes. However, it’s like digging yourself deeper in a hole. You don’t need more shovels, you need a fucking rope. But the person who has this problem (unconsciously) wants to keep digging deeper. So, in a sense, they really don’t have complete free will. They’d ignore the rope if they saw one.

There is a way to reclaim more of your free will, but it requires a combination of acceptance and applied knowledge. There is a quote that says…

“Without awareness, there is no choice.”

I don’t know where I heard this quote, but it’s ridiculously true when it comes to free will. We have to detach from what we know, and listen to what we don’t know. This is why meditation is becoming increasingly popular in Western culture. Being less reactive is a valuable skill in today’s distracted, reactive society.

Why? Because we’re stupider than we think. If we were super intelligent, we’d accomplish our goals in an extremely straightforward manner. But most people spend a lifetime trying to figure out how to play “life”. They’re too caught up dabbling around in the sidelines, reading a tutorial book on how to play hockey when they’re actually at a football game. It just doesn’t work.

Granted, there ARE people who seem to float effortlessly through life, with seemingly infinite free will, actualizing whatever goals they conjure. These people, however, are small minority, because most humans have very real problems.

“You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are.”

This basically explains the Law of Attraction. Like attracts like. You can only hold what your cup can handle.

This may seem a little harsh, but it’s true. If you really want to change things, but just can’t seem to do so, have an honest assessment with yourself about what might be blocking your success. Is it your own thoughts?

You always have the free will to make changes in a positive direction. Just start now, ground yourself with as many positive influences as you can. The more pillars you have at the base of your building, the less likely the structure will collapse.

Stack the odds in your own favor.

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How to Get Out of Your Own Way: A Practical Guide

In today’s distraction fueled rat race, it’s so easy to get caught up with the wrong things. So much so, that we lose years of our lives to a zombified state of despair. A state where we can show up to the office and come home, but not really feel like we’re in the right place.

I’m writing this guide in hopes that it will help someone 1) get out of this state quickly & 2) Do what they’re meant to be doing all along and enjoy it. It’s only three steps, like the Lynyrd Skynyrd song.

Without further ado, here is my step by step prescription to cure this increasingly common disease:

  1. Cut out the technology by at least 80%. Wisdom comes from slowing down and listening, not speeding up. I say this a lot, but I’d argue the way we use technology is the MAIN CAUSE of being stuck in a state of “I’m unhappy and I don’t know what to do!”. Why? Because it slices up your attention span every time you click on a link, look at photos, watch videos, etc. This is dopamine seeking behavior. Your body WANTS a purpose, it wants rewards. But instead of putting in hard work to find reward, you’re chasing it through the superficial realm via technology. This isn’t good, and I’d argue it’s the number one cause of feeling “stuck” and hopeless. It weakens your ability to focus. Cut this shit out ASAP. You don’t need it. Imagine it’s 1968. Literally go back in time and simplify your life. It will give you a massive edge over most people.
  2. Actually put in the work and mean it. Once again, it’s not rocket science but so many people have lost touch with this concept: Hard work is rewarding, regardless of what you work on. It is absolutely impossible to feel pleasure without discipline. Work, dammit! It’s actually very, very fulfilling.  If you’re still not convinced, remember a time when you worked really hard on something and it was a success. Remember how amazingly good you felt after it was done? Imagine if you worked that hard every day, how much more respect you would have for yourself and your craft. Imagine how different your life would look if you instilled this work habit. (“What should I work on?” – Anything! Only you know…and don’t bullshit…what that is. I can’t answer it, but I guarantee you know, deep down inside.)
  3. Stay healthy and guard your health with your life! Self explanatory, but true. Eat your vegetables and get outside as frequently as possible. You want to be attuned to the “greater picture” of life. Living a sedentary lifestyle and eating junk will make change significantly harder. Feed your brain quality, and it will function well.

That’s it. Best of luck!