How to Get Out of Your Own Way: A Practical Guide

In today’s distraction fueled rat race, it’s so easy to get caught up with the wrong things. So much so, that we lose years of our lives to a zombified state of despair. A state where we can show up to the office and come home, but not really feel like we’re in the right place.

I’m writing this guide in hopes that it will help someone 1) get out of this state quickly & 2) Do what they’re meant to be doing all along and enjoy it. It’s only three steps, like the Lynyrd Skynyrd song.

Without further ado, here is my step by step prescription to cure this increasingly common disease:

  1. Cut out the technology by at least 80%. Wisdom comes from slowing down and listening, not speeding up. I say this a lot, but I’d argue the way we use technology is the MAIN CAUSE of being stuck in a state of “I’m unhappy and I don’t know what to do!”. Why? Because it slices up your attention span every time you click on a link, look at photos, watch videos, etc. This is dopamine seeking behavior. Your body WANTS a purpose, it wants rewards. But instead of putting in hard work to find reward, you’re chasing it through the superficial realm via technology. This isn’t good, and I’d argue it’s the number one cause of feeling “stuck” and hopeless. It weakens your ability to focus. Cut this shit out ASAP. You don’t need it. Imagine it’s 1968. Literally go back in time and simplify your life. It will give you a massive edge over most people.
  2. Actually put in the work and mean it. Once again, it’s not rocket science but so many people have lost touch with this concept: Hard work is rewarding, regardless of what you work on. It is absolutely impossible to feel pleasure without discipline. Work, dammit! It’s actually very, very fulfilling.  If you’re still not convinced, remember a time when you worked really hard on something and it was a success. Remember how amazingly good you felt after it was done? Imagine if you worked that hard every day, how much more respect you would have for yourself and your craft. Imagine how different your life would look if you instilled this work habit. (“What should I work on?” – Anything! Only you know…and don’t bullshit…what that is. I can’t answer it, but I guarantee you know, deep down inside.)
  3. Stay healthy and guard your health with your life! Self explanatory, but true. Eat your vegetables and get outside as frequently as possible. You want to be attuned to the “greater picture” of life. Living a sedentary lifestyle and eating junk will make change significantly harder. Feed your brain quality, and it will function well.

That’s it. Best of luck!