People want unrealistic shortcuts to success. They don’t care enough to embrace the process of hard work and self discovery.
This lends itself to bullshit answers being fed to bullshit people. Our culture thrives on pure bullshit.
Life is a dance you get better at by DOING. There is no “shortcut” “tip” or “tactic” to success.
Whatever advice somebody gives you is just what works for them. Use it as a guideline, but not ultimatum. Sure, guidelines are important (so is keeping an OPEN MIND and being able to receive feedback). But MANY things in life nobody has the answer to, and you will have to find that out yourself through reference experiences.
You are your own authority. The road is clear. Stop hiding. Go make what you care about happen.